Is this what it feels like to you when you ask your ADHD son to complete his chores?

“I don’t really get after him when he doesn’t listen to me because he’s got ADHD…” the parent of an inattentive 11 yr old explains, forgetting to make the distinction between inattentiveness and frank disregard.

Parents and educators often mistake a kid’s inattentiveness for an attention deficit disorder when that kid is simply ignoring the adults’ directives. By not holding children or teenagers accountable for their intentional lack of attention, or regard, or response, we are enabling them to hide behind labels in order to avoid responsibility and accountability.

— Janet Sasson Edgette